How I've Reduced Inner Conflict & Induced Inner Peace
A system for clarity
I want to share ways in which I’ve been able to reduce Inner Conflict & induce Inner Peace.
It’s important to reduce conflict as much as possible. Nothing, and I mean capital “N” Nothing productive comes from conflict. The person that subscribes to conflict is not evil but merely ignorant.
“All wrong, or evil, is only done out of ignorance and not from the intention to do evil” ~Socrates~
But let’s focus on inner conflict for the purpose of this topic. We want to reduce inner conflict so that we can become more clear (aware) in and of our actions. Our actions are the source of our future. When we reduce the conflict and become clear, our relationship with self and others can begin to flourish.
Unfortunately, so many people avoid becoming clear because they haven’t learned a system to do so.
Clarity is Key to Relationship (w/self and others)
Here are a few ways you may blocking your clarity:
Drinking alcohol (numbing the feeling)
Smoking weed (suppressing the emotion)
Flight Response (running away)
But don’t worry! I’m going to explain how i’ve overcome these and how they could help you too.
Here’s a step by step process how 👇
Step 1: Developing a daily practice
The daily practice is not AS important as the actual discipline behind doing something daily. Discipline is doing the thing regardless of how you feel in the moment. Each time we do the thing (even when we don’t want to) we reduce what’s called “Limbic Friction” 👇
The 'gap' between the logical cerebral cortex and the emotional limbic system – between wanting to do a thing, and actually doing that thing. ~ Dr. Andrew Huberman~
For myself: a daily practice is meditation. Either an active meditation like a 5-10 minute walk (no music) or a a silent meditation (sitting in silence). This helps regulate the nervous systems and prepares for step 2. Other daily practices could be:
Prayer
Walking
Exercise
Step 2: Get it out of your head 💭
Write it down. So many people go wrong here due to overthinking the process. They might think:
“I don’t know what to write about” or “How much do I write?”.
The answer is: there is no right or wrong way to getting started. You just put thoughts > pen > paper. Yes, it’s that simple. I promise you! To avoid overthinking the process or what to write about, meditate.
This is why it’s a solid daily practice for me. So many thoughts arise during meditation, so i’ll pick one, and use that as my “starter sentence”. The rest just flows from there. Or you can use a journal such as The Daily Stoic which provided writing prompts (linked below)
Step 3: Put it all together
If you put in place step 1 & 2 then you will have a system that ensures reducing inner conflict thus leading you to more inner peace.
Less thoughts = more clarity = more peace = better relationships
I hope you enjoyed this system for clarity and find it useful. I’ve included links below to some extra resources I find helpful and can be used daily.
Please share your practice below in the comments. I’d love to learn how you go about reducing the inner chatter and conflict in your life!